Moving up in leadership means stepping into bigger, more visible spaces. Suddenly, you find yourself speaking in senior-level meetings — presenting to top executives, contributing to high-stakes discussions and influencing key decisions.
The stakes feel higher. The pressure to perform is intense. Sitting in these senior-level meetings can bring a creeping fear:
- What if I fail in front of these leaders?
- What if I say something wrong or get asked a question I can’t answer?
- What if I don’t sound polished enough and lose credibility?
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Many leaders hesitate to speak up in executive meetings, fearing they’ll make a mistake or fall short of expectations. But confidence doesn’t come from being perfect — it comes from preparation and presence. Here’s how to find your voice and own your space in senior-level discussions.
1. Build your case for confidence
Before you step into that high-stakes meeting, take time to reinforce your own credibility. Think like a lawyer preparing a case: gather evidence of why you belong in the room.
- Acknowledge your expertise. You were promoted for a reason. Instead of questioning yourself, remind yourself: I know my area inside and out — my insights are valuable.
- Reflect on past successes. Look at your performance reviews, positive feedback and measurable results. Let this ground you in facts, not fears.
- Reframe self-doubt. Instead of thinking, Am I good enough to be here? shift to, I bring value, and my perspective is important.
When you anchor yourself in what you’ve already proven, you take back your power before you even walk into the room.
2. Stop giving away your power
It’s easy to see senior leaders as larger-than-life figures with the ability to shape your future. But the moment you put senior leaders on a pedestal, you put yourself in a weaker position. Many leaders unknowingly shrink their presence in executive meetings — through hesitation, deferential language or waiting for permission to speak.
Avoid these common confidence traps:
- Waiting for the perfect moment. Senior meetings move fast. If you hesitate, the conversation will shift — jump in early to establish your presence.
- Using minimizing phrases. Eliminate weak openers like “This might not be important, but…” or “I could be wrong, but…”. Instead, state your point with conviction.
- Putting executives on a pedestal. They may have more experience, but your expertise matters, too. You’re in the room for a reason. Remember, they’re just people — they put on their clothes, eat lunch and face challenges like everyone else. Keeping this perspective levels the playing field.
- Thinking they’re judging you. These leaders are not sitting there waiting for you to fail. They believe in you — they promoted you, invited you to the table and value what you bring.
3. Flip the fear: from pressure to partnership
The fear of speaking up often comes from feeling like you’re being judged. But what if you reframed it?
- Shift your mindset. Instead of thinking, They have power over me, reframe it to, They see my potential and want me to thrive.
- Look for allies in the room. Identify leaders who have supported you before. Even if they don’t explicitly back you up, their presence can be a confidence boost.
- Trust that you’re not alone. Every leader in that room once faced their own first big meeting. They understand what it’s like. Show up as someone who belongs.
4. Prepare for nerves before they hijack you
As the meeting approaches, nerves will naturally rise. If left unchecked, they can spiral into self-doubt at the worst possible moment. Here’s how to stay grounded:
- Reaffirm your strengths daily. Leading up to the meeting, take ten minutes each morning to review your expertise, past wins and what you uniquely bring to the table.
- Practice speaking with confidence. Whether through dry runs, recording yourself or rehearsing key points in front of a mirror, build muscle memory for confidence.
- Use a grounding technique before speaking. Take a deep breath, plant your feet and remind yourself: I am prepared. I have value. I belong here.
5. Own the room when you speak
When the moment comes, step into it fully and show up with a strong presence. How you carry yourself, the way you speak and the confidence you project all shape how others perceive you.
- Project confidence. Speak clearly, sit upright and own your space at the table.
- Engage, don’t just present. Senior leaders want concise insights, not long explanations. Be direct, pause purposefully and let your words carry weight.
- Demonstrate executive presence. What is executive presence? It’s not just about what you say but how you say it. When you project confidence and communicate with clarity and conviction, you command attention and ensure your voice is heard.
- Remember, your ideas matter. Your voice isn’t just heard — it’s valued. The way you deliver your perspective shapes how others perceive your leadership.
Step into your leadership
The biggest mistake leaders make in high-level meetings is believing they need to prove they belong. You don’t need to prove anything — you already belong. Your expertise, experience and insights are the reason you are in the room. The more you own that, the more confident and high-impact you will be.
Keep these key reminders in mind as you step into the room:
- You are not there to impress. You are there to contribute.
- Your voice isn’t an afterthought — it’s part of the conversation.
- Speak with confidence, and the room will listen.
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